Ally's Faves of 2012

I didn't quite make it to 52 this year, but darn it, I got closer than I thought I would! In 2012, I learned that I love to read before bed and prefer to pick up a book instead of turning on the TV when I need a break from house work. However, I've also learned that reading a good book can be incredibly addicting, and it's harder for me to walk away from a book than a re-run on TV, so I have to pick my poison wisely. There are seven books that stand out to me as my faves of 2012. Here they are, in no particular order...

  1. Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte This is one of my favorite reads of all time, and will probably be re-read every year from here on out.
  2. Absolutely American by David Lipsky I don't know that any other book would help me to better understand my husband's university experience than this one. Lately, I find my affection for the Army growing and my interest in long-standing traditions expanding. This book has motivated me to select more titles on military history in 2013.
  3. Foreign to Familiar by Sarah Lanier I find it sad that I found this book after traveling extensively in countries where this information would have been very useful. It will be one that I carry on the plane with me when traveling abroad from now on.
  4. How to Read the Bible #1 & 2 by Gordon Fee and Douglas Stuart These two books have significantly impacted the way I read and understand my Bible. Since I am facilitating two overlapping chronological studies, these resources have helped prepare me for the task and have been equally helpful for my students.
  5. A Swiftly Tilting Planet by Madeleine L'Engle I enjoyed the entire L'Engle series, but the time travel in this particular book was fun and intriguing. Though I may be tempted to read through this series again next year, I'm going to try to aim for something new.
  6. Mansfield Park by Jane Austen As the only female blogger on this site, my reading list tends to include more "chick" books. Not all of Austen's writing thrills me, but this one has more endearing themes than the others I've read. I'm curious to see if there's a good film version of Mansfield Park.
  7. The Family of Adoption by Joyce Maguire Pavao Jim and I are not sure if/how/when we will pursue adoption again, but I would still recommend this book to anyone who is considering adoption, especially one that allows for sustained contact and/or communication with the birth family.

 

In 2013, I hope to read more by the Bronte sisters, R.C. Sproul, Tim Kellar, C.S. Lewis, and Bonhoeffer. Since I'm a fan of trilogies and the like, I also have The Lord of the Rings series on my to-do list. Topically speaking, I'd like to include books on American history, Army history, the Czech Republic, and missionary biographies. The trick for 2013 will be figuring out how to appropriately balance my reading goals with motherhood and other priorities.

 

JRF's Top Ten of 2013 ... and then some

Top Ten (excluding the Bible)

  1. Adopted for Life by Russell Moore
  2. 1984 by George Orwell
  3. Uneclipsing the Son by Rick Holland
  4. The Freedom of Self-Forgetfulness by Tim Keller
  5. Inventing the Enemy by Umberto Eco
  6. Fearless by Eric Blehm
  7. Of Temptation by John Owen
  8. The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkein
  9. A Princess of Mars by Edgar Rice Burroughs
  10. Jesus Himself by Andrew Murray

Honorable Mentions:

Ron's Best Reads of 2012

I read only 38 books in 2012. Congrats to Mark and John reading the 52. Of those 38, here are the standout ones that I heartily recommend.

7. Beautiful Boy by David Sheff An excellent account of a father-son relationships

6. The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne I love this book more with each yearly reading.

5. Surprised by Joy by C.S. Lewis Lewis's autobiography. Need I say anything more?

4. A Mind for God by James Emery White A short, powerful overview at development the Christian mind.

3. Moonwalking with Einstein by Joshua Foer A book that I'll hope I remember for a long time!

2.  Tinkers by Paul Harding  A beautifully written novel.

 

1. A Walk Across the Sun by Corbin Addison A fiction account of the nonfictional modern slave trade. Excellent novel with a clear, powerful message

Thirteen Ways to Read More in 2013

I did not make 52 books this year, but I'm OK with that.

For the past three years, Mark and I have read and blogged about a book a week here. It's been one of the best goals that I've set out and accomplished. I loved reading so much and talking about those books with others. This year was slightly different. We adopted our second son Josiah in May. When he came, I knew that there was no way for me to continue reading at that pace, but I still wanted to read and blog what I could. I made it to 38 having two young sons, a busy time traveling in the States, and teaching five advanced English courses with lots and lots of essays to grade. With all that, I'm happy with 38.

With all this going on, I still wanted to carve out time to read not just to meet a self-imposed goal, but because reading is valuable. Books are important, and reading them adds to our quality of living. Many people say, “I’d love to read more, but I can’t because________.” This blank is filled with reasons that are legion. If this is you, let me address a few obstacles to my reading; perhaps this will encourage you to see that they may not be obstacles at all.

1. Stop saying, “I’m a slow reader.” If you think this about yourself, join the club. Just because I’m an English teacher doesn’t mean that I’ve graduated summa cum laude at Evelyn Wood’s Speed Reading class. What I lack in speed I compensate for in tenacity. Commit yourself to finish a book, and spend time doing that. Whether it takes a day or a month, stick with it until the last page. With reading, our speed improves with more books. So, the more you read, the more you’ll be able to read.

2. Limit competing activities. This does not mean eschew meeting with friends or spending time with your wife in order to read (“Sorry, honey, but I can go with you. I already have a date with John Grisham” will not go over well in my house, and I doubt it will in yours either). This means trade watching every episode of House in one evening for some reading time. I found that to read more, I watch far fewer movies than I’ve ever watched. With only three leisure hours a day, I must spend them wisely. We still watch movies and an occasional episode of a show, but I don’t want to lose all my reading time to gorge myself of television.

Perhaps television isn’t your intruder, but video games are. Two words suffice here: Stop it. Nothing is a bigger waste of time than hours spent shooting, jumping, fighting, driving, or Guitar-Heroing. If you tell me that you wish you could read more but waiting in line for the midnight sale of the new Call of Duty game, I have no sympathy for you. Actually, I do because that is a textbook definition of pathetic.

3. Check your Internet usage. For me, the greatest time-sucking black hole in my life is Internet browsing. I’ve written on this before in my past reviews of technology, but it is a constant battle to spend my time more productively than blinding sauntering from link to link,  reading meaningless droll articles on politics, celebrity, or culture. I find that even topics at the top of my interest (theology, technology, and literature) can fritter away meaningful time that I could be reading something of permanence. If you are looking to read more books, set parameters for leisure surfing. Set a timer if you must. We all like breaks from serious work to read the headlines or movie reviews, but let them be breaks, and not where we live exclusively.

4. Set a pattern. What time of day do you best read? Early morning? Late night? Lunch break? Pick a time to spend even 20 minutes with your book. I like the quietness of our house in the morning before work. I have 30 minutes with my coffee to read without distractions. This costs me more time sleeping, but I think the payout is worth it. For you, it may be sacrificing spending your lunch break surfing ESPN or talking with colleagues about the latest workplace gossip. Your sacrifice of either is worth it.

5. Change your Bathroom Reading. This will be a quick one: stop playing Angry Birds or reading Facebook on the toilet. Put a short book in your bathroom instead. You’ll add a few more titles to your yearly totals.

6. Find accountability in your reading. One of the best motivators for me to keep reading is my friendly competition with Mark. He and I push each other to make it to 52, constantly ask about the current books, and read and comment and, at times, insult the other’s picks. Find someone in your life to sharpen you in your reading. Join a book club. Commit to read a set amount of books this upcoming year, and search for a friend to join you. Our church has a monthly theological book group that encourages me to read at least one book per month. Look for one at your church, or start one.

7. Write about your reading. When we started www.my52books.com, we wanted to add the review component to help us to think deeper about the books that we were reading. Knowing that a short review awaits me, I interact with the book differently. Spending the 15-30 minutes writing the review solidifies my thinking about the book, and helps me to remember aspects better. You need not start a blog, but they are free and easy. You can add a Facebook post or merely write it in Word for your own keeping.

8. Bring a book everywhere. Waiting in line at the post office allows me two pages, arriving for an appointment 15 minutes early grants ten pages, and sitting while my car is washed opens time for another five pages. I won’t finish a book in errands, but it gets me closer. As I mentioned before, this beats skipping around an app that balances virtual marbles on my iPhone.

9. Consider a Kindle. Most people who have a Kindle enthusiastically declare that they read more because of it. If the convenience of the device helps you to read more, more power to ya. Get one and read away. I resolved that while I enjoy the ability to get a book quickly, the Kindle is not my preferred method to read. I’m too tempted to play with its features or to search the store for another digital book to download. Also, I like to write in my book margins, and the note-taking on e-readers just isn’t where I want it to be. It may be just what you need.

10. Have variety in your reading list. Don’t feel that you need to read only American classics or Pulitzer Prize winners this year. Mix it up with serious and silly; long and short; important and frivolous. For each The Scarlet Letter, there was a John Grisham. For each Steve Jobs weighing in at 598 pages, there was Note to Self with a slight 134 pages. Having variety adds to the excitement to finish one book and begin the next. I’m not out to impress anyone with my picks (OK, maybe Mark). Look at both the New York Times bestseller list and search for a list of books for college-bound students. Choose from both, and also from those on the Recent Arrivals section of the library. Don’t read anything that you don’t want to.

11. Alter your nighttime reading. Stop reading your news apps or Facebook before bedtime. Put a quick read on your bedside table to read, even a few pages for sawing logs. Reading your phone in bed is an odd way to begin your sleep, so try knocking out a book over the course of a month.

12. Add some audiobooks into your life. Pick a fiction book on audio at the library, Amazon, or Christianaudio.com. There are many classics on loud lit.org or on iTunes for free. Have one playing instead of sports radio or all music. I certainly love music, but once in awhile, an audiobook is better, especially on those longer drives.

13. Commit to a realistic reading goal right now. This could be a number: 52, 25, or 12. Find something realistic, and tell someone. Or, commit to a few books you’ve always wanted to read but never have, or authors you wished you read in high school. In 2013, I will read through The Brothers Karamazov and Moby Dick as part of my 52. Making this public will help keep me accountable. Commit to something right now, and make it known.

May 2013 be the year that you read more books than you ever have before. Minor changes could yield major accomplishments this year. Good luck, and happy reading in the new year.

Ron's #38: Beautiful Boy by David Sheff

 Beautiful Boy is subtitled "A Father's journey through his son's addiction."  I first saw this book for sale in a Starbucks several years ago, and it sounded compelling. I saw it in Entertainment Weekly magazine, and I read about it in a few other places. Our school library had it in a featured section, and I took another look at it last month. The topic hit me more than before now that I have two sons. What if one of them became a drug addict? How would I react? Just reading the jacket blurb made me feel that ache in my heart over losing one of my two boys to a destructive habit, so I decided that it was time to read it.I'm glad that I did. Sheff is a master at this format, taking the reader through many aspects of addiction, especially in addiction to methamphetamines. He writes the account in present tense, an odd decision as most stories are commonly told in past tense. Shaff's present tense makes us going along the journal with him. This technique helps the narrative feel more important and uncertain.

The strongest aspect of this story is a father's love for his son. Shaff's commitment to helping Nic at great cost to himself is (mostly) admirable. I felt his pain at seeing his son after a binge of meth, I sensed his fear with waiting for a call saying that Nic was dead, and I connected with his hope that this relapse would be the last relapse, even though we know it won't be. This made me look at my sons differently. What if I'm going to remember this time right now 20 years from now when I wait to hear the doctor tell me whether he'll survive the overdose. Will I reminisce about this Christmas in 20 years after I attend yet another parent support group for drug addicts? This book helped me to appreciate my boys more than ever before.

Another aspect that I liked about this book is the information on methamphetamines, and the danger they pose. There is no drug as unstable and the results so uncertain as meth, and Shaff offers much in the current treatment for this an other drugs. I've not read many or even any books on drug abuse, so this was useful. Along with this point, I see that our culture often makes too many jokes about meth addicts and tweakers. There certainly is nothing funny about this terrible drug, regardless of what Breaking Bad portrays.

I hesitate to criticize the book, as it is an account of a family's pain, so I'll only make a few comments about what I sensed as problematic. The first glaring one is the family's disdain for God in this. God "appeared" in many different ways through the story, and I hoped that Nic or David would reach out and trust his guidance. Rather, there was hostility towards him on Nic's part, and indifference on David's. the other area that I saw was Nic's compete freedom as a child.  As a father, Shaff seemed to have no limitations on David in regard to what he watched or friends he spent time with. Later, Nic acknowledged that some of his problems stemmed from being treated as an adult and never being a child. That's an interesting statement. I was shocked to hear that as a young boy, fifth grade or so, Nic could recite the opening line to Spike Lee's Do the Right Thing, a movie certainly not intended for boys. Nic needed a father, but Nic got a cool dad who liked cool music and cool movies.

Of course, he didn't do drugs because he watched a rated R movie, but there is something to be said about exposing our children to the influences of the world, especially too early. And, we would do so much better as parents if we set standards rather than trying to be our children's buddies. That does not good. At one time in the narrative after Nic has had problems with drugs, he asks David to smoke pot with him, and David agrees. While I appreciate the truthful addition, it should that there is something askew in this relationship.

Tis was a minor annoyance in my enjoyment of the book. I thought it was excellent in many regards, no I'm so glad that I read it. Anne Lamont has a quotation on the cover that sums up my thoughts on it: "This book with save a lot of lives and heal a lot of hearts." I can see how both aspects of that cold be true.